Happy Father's Day: The Future Generation

I spoke with a married lady some weeks ago and while giving me advice, she mentioned something very interesting.

She said that when it comes to choosing a life partner, one needs to be very selfish.

Very, very selfish.

She went ahead to list different areas women especially need to pay attention to before saying “yes” to a man. And honestly? She wasn’t entirely wrong.

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But Gorgeous, shebi you know that not everyone on earth is meant to get married? Shebi you know? Even the Bible confirms this.

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Now, if you must marry, I came to give you just ONE reason why you need to be extremely careful and intentional about who you choose to do life with:

• YOUR CHILDREN, AND THE FUTURE.

Now, it’s okay if you simply want companionship and have no plans of birthing children. That is a completely different conversation.

But if you know that you would love to bring children into this world, pllllleeeeaaaasssseeeee, Gorgeous, I am begging you🙏🏾

Know who you are marrying.

Please.

Some of you would agree with me that if your parents had made different decisions, maybe life would have been easier in some ways. Maybe you would have had a better support system, better guidance, or fewer battles to fight just to survive.

And that brings me to a serious question:

Why become a parent if one of your goals is not to help simplify life for the coming generation? Why intentionally bring children into suffering you could have reduced?

For example, why have multiple children when you already know you cannot adequately cater for them physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually?

I will talk about generational patterns another day, but for now, I want you to understand this:

When choosing a life partner, do not think only about romance. Think about the children. Think about the future generation. Think about the type of home both of you will create together.

Some of the battles people are fighting today did not start with them. Sometimes, people inherit unhealthy mindsets, broken systems, poor decisions, trauma, abuse, neglect, harmful family patterns, and spiritual confusion from generations before them.

And sadly, many parents never stop to think about how their choices may affect the children coming after them.

I once knew a guy who spent years moving from one spiritual place to another, trying to break certain destructive patterns in his family line. According to him, it all traced back to decisions made by one of his ancestors.

Now, whether you fully believe stories like that or not, one thing remains true:

The decisions people make today can affect generations tomorrow.

That is why wisdom matters.

Please, Gorgeous, life is deeply spiritual as much as it is physical.

So yes, be intentional when choosing who to marry.

Pay attention to character. Pay attention to values. Pay attention to emotional maturity. Pay attention to spiritual conviction. Pay attention to patterns.

Not just chemistry.

Think about your future children too.

Because it is not easy to break negative cycles, whether physical, emotional, financial, or spiritual. It takes intentionality, sacrifice, healing, prayer, wisdom, and grace.

So as much as possible, do not knowingly create more battles for the next generation to fight.

They are humans too.

I hope you understand my heart.

Thank you🤍

Mama👩‍🍼